After the events at the Boston Marathon, I wanted to revisit my post on fears. You can check out my original post about fears called Bad Guys and Black Snakes and Sharks, Oh My!
In this post, I wanted to share some links that I have come across that have been helpful in speaking with my children about events like what happened on April 15th. First, I want to share with you a quote from Mr. Rogers which you may or may have not seen, I think it is important to remember this quote, and remind your children of it as well. “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, Look for the helpers. You will always find people helping.”
One of the first things you should do in a time like this, is not let your children watch any news reports, unless you have screened them first. There have been very graphic images coming out from this disaster and I would not want my children seeing them. News reports are often more sensational than they have to be and you do not need your children exposed to that.
Think about if your children might be exposed to some of this news, either at school or at friends’ houses. When the Sandy Hook shooting took place, my children’s school had a moment of silence and I decided I needed to tell my children something about it. I told them that a lot of children got hurt somewhere far away, but I never told them it happened at a school. In the heat of the moment when I was hearing about the explosions for the first time, I did mention there had been explosions somewhere far away. I am planning on discussing it a little further with them, because I would rather they hear it from me for the first time.
Here is some great information from PBS on talking with your kids about scary news. http://pbsparents.tumblr.com/post/48058966053/our-thoughts-go-out-to-the-victims-and-those
Good luck, and remember the fewer details the better. If your children have some trouble sleeping after you talk to them, have patience and reassure them that you are there to protect them.
By Michelle Winters